The moment you think a thought, you fire off a biological reaction. But are you in control of that reaction, or is your past controlling you? Since birth you have developed your own mental model of the world. Within it you have developed a vast collection of words, meanings and labels that define and dictate the world you live in that exist on the outside of you. Your personal word bank is a collection of words that mean something to you. The way in which you define things, y

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